I have no TV. I do not watch the news. I do not really pay attention to the news online either.
However, I found out what is going on at University of Missouri via Facebook. Even then, I do not want to know all the details, because I am upset that this is happening in 2015. I feel that as a world, we need to spread love around the world.
This is what I just wrote on my Facebook:
Racism has no place in the world. Neither does discrimination. Neither does fear for the safety of one's life. According to the Bible, perfect love casts out fear. No matter where we are during our precious walk in this process we call life, we should aim to show unconditional love. That is, a love that knows no bounds and brings us together no matter how different we are. I pray every night that our world becomes a more positive and peaceful place. I pray that I can make a difference in this world, as I believe all of us are called to. It saddens me to hear of recent events. This hatred needs to stop. Unconditional love needs to be rooted in all of our hearts, actions and reactions. We will never be perfect enough to not make mistakes, but I believe that we, as a nation, can come together as human beings and not dwell on our differences. It is all of our differences that make this life so beautiful. Show love. Aim for peace. And stand up for the silent.
It is up to each of us to choose love over hate, peace over turmoil, and light over darkness. This is true in all facets of life and all the interactions we have with each other.
I cannot speak for everyone on this earth but I look forward to the day where racism and discrimination are no longer. Gone. No more.
Gone.
So when you hear more news about the current situation, know that you have a choice to make. You can decide if you want to bring positive change into your life and the other lives around you or you can stay stuck in darkness.
All of us are human beings and nobody is perfect and absolutely nobody should be the target of racism and discrimination.
Let us love.
Thursday, November 12, 2015
Monday, November 9, 2015
Gone Now
Today was just a typical day but today was a monumental day for me.
I am currently not covered under my father's insurance for the first time since I knew what insurance was.
His insurance was the last tie I had to him. Now that is gone.
My father has never really been a father to me. Not even close. I even have a restraining order against him. He's done unspeakable things to me and my family..
I have to say that today was one of the best days of my life, even though I still struggled with symptoms of PTSD, caused by my father and some other family members.
After years of going to different doctors, hospitals and mental health inpatient and outpatient services, I am so relieved. You see, all those years, I had to tell the secretaries that I had no contact with him and had none of his information. Sometimes the people at the front desk were frustrated that I couldn't tell them anything about him. Same old story, different doctor.
That's gone now.
I'm done, father. I'm done.
No longer do you have any control over me.
I am currently not covered under my father's insurance for the first time since I knew what insurance was.
His insurance was the last tie I had to him. Now that is gone.
My father has never really been a father to me. Not even close. I even have a restraining order against him. He's done unspeakable things to me and my family..
I have to say that today was one of the best days of my life, even though I still struggled with symptoms of PTSD, caused by my father and some other family members.
After years of going to different doctors, hospitals and mental health inpatient and outpatient services, I am so relieved. You see, all those years, I had to tell the secretaries that I had no contact with him and had none of his information. Sometimes the people at the front desk were frustrated that I couldn't tell them anything about him. Same old story, different doctor.
That's gone now.
I'm done, father. I'm done.
No longer do you have any control over me.
Saturday, November 7, 2015
I Love Life
My boyfriend (ex now) broke up with me earlier this past week. I still am in the processing phase and possibly the Serenity Prayer phase.
Folks, life is not easy and, for some, that is an understatement.
But do our lives stop when difficult things happen?
No, not at all.
In fact, life starts a new phase every time we overcome something or deal with it in a healthy manner.
Every day we live, we make choices about our reactions. It's almost as if we have a new life or a new start every morning. You can be stuck in the pain or you can climb out of the pit.
Me, I get up and start running every morning because 6 years ago I fractured vertebrae in my back and the doctors said I was lucky to survive and lucky not to have a spinal cord injury.
Running is a constant reminder for me of how blessed I am to still be alive, even though I am processing a hard breakup as well as trying to figure out a dire situation with my insurance.
Even on the most futile days of my life, I love life.
Folks, life is not easy and, for some, that is an understatement.
But do our lives stop when difficult things happen?
No, not at all.
In fact, life starts a new phase every time we overcome something or deal with it in a healthy manner.
Every day we live, we make choices about our reactions. It's almost as if we have a new life or a new start every morning. You can be stuck in the pain or you can climb out of the pit.
Me, I get up and start running every morning because 6 years ago I fractured vertebrae in my back and the doctors said I was lucky to survive and lucky not to have a spinal cord injury.
Running is a constant reminder for me of how blessed I am to still be alive, even though I am processing a hard breakup as well as trying to figure out a dire situation with my insurance.
Even on the most futile days of my life, I love life.
Wednesday, October 21, 2015
6 Years Ago
6 Years Ago, I nearly lost my life to a suicide attempt. A very serious one that almost resulted in a spinal cord injury.
6 Years Ago, I never could have imagined where life was going to take me in the next 6 Years.. All of the positive moments that I would never have gone through if I had not survived.
6 Years Ago, I said "This is it." And God said "Nope."
6 Years Ago, this day was the start of a brand new life.
In those 6 Years, I received my Bachelors of Science in Bioengineering Magna Cum Laude and in the Honors Program. I received my Masters of Science in Biomedical Engineering as well. I've become a published writer. I have raised over $500 for charities around the world just by training for my first Half Marathon, a feat that I never thought would happen as I fractured several vertebrae in my lower back 6 Years Ago. I've made and donated a few hundred scarves. I have donated a gallon of blood and I've donated my hair three times. I have donated my time to a children's after school program and multiple food pantries. I have participated in various fundraisers, including Relay for Life. I choose very carefully how I am going to use my time and energy to make the most out of my borrowed time. I want to make the most of every day I still have in this life.
I've aim to better my life and to move through the difficult times.
Most of all, I am managing my mental illnesses much better than I thought I would. I had a really rough time last week, but I was able to make it through without going to the hospital. I am lucky to have the support of so many people.
Thank you to all those who have offered support, encouragement and love to me. I would not be still fighting if it were not for you.
6 Years Ago, I never could have imagined where life was going to take me in the next 6 Years.. All of the positive moments that I would never have gone through if I had not survived.
6 Years Ago, I said "This is it." And God said "Nope."
6 Years Ago, this day was the start of a brand new life.
In those 6 Years, I received my Bachelors of Science in Bioengineering Magna Cum Laude and in the Honors Program. I received my Masters of Science in Biomedical Engineering as well. I've become a published writer. I have raised over $500 for charities around the world just by training for my first Half Marathon, a feat that I never thought would happen as I fractured several vertebrae in my lower back 6 Years Ago. I've made and donated a few hundred scarves. I have donated a gallon of blood and I've donated my hair three times. I have donated my time to a children's after school program and multiple food pantries. I have participated in various fundraisers, including Relay for Life. I choose very carefully how I am going to use my time and energy to make the most out of my borrowed time. I want to make the most of every day I still have in this life.
I've aim to better my life and to move through the difficult times.
Most of all, I am managing my mental illnesses much better than I thought I would. I had a really rough time last week, but I was able to make it through without going to the hospital. I am lucky to have the support of so many people.
Thank you to all those who have offered support, encouragement and love to me. I would not be still fighting if it were not for you.
Saturday, October 17, 2015
Octobers the Month
This week was one of the most difficult weeks I have had in a long time. I dealt with severe symptoms every day, including paranoia, depression and flashbacks.
October is always the worst month for me. October 21 will be the 6 year anniversary of my most serious suicide attempt, in which I was told I should not be alive and that I should never be able to walk again. Last year, my brother went missing for 4 days and I moved out of my mother's house on October 28th and was hospitalized a few days later. When I was a child, I was stuck in a house fire in the fall.
Fall has a sort of drastic change in weather from Summer and it has always been a hard time for me. I feel a lot of inner turmoil when the leaves change color and the air is cold. I think my brain subconsciously remembers all the negative events that have happened in October. Sometimes the memories pass through my subconscious and I remember them,
Sometimes I wish that I did not remember everything that happens in my psychotic and paranoid states but I do. I not only have flashbacks of childhood abuse, but I also have them from other negative and stressful memories throughout my life. I even remember most of my childhood dreams and nightmares. I wish I did not have this extraordinary memory of negative memories but I do. I guess it could be considered part of the fact that my IQ is in the 99th percentile.
I have the power inside to stop this cycle of symptoms in October. Sometimes it does not feel like I do. But I do. All of us hold a power within us to stop the negative.
October is always the worst month for me. October 21 will be the 6 year anniversary of my most serious suicide attempt, in which I was told I should not be alive and that I should never be able to walk again. Last year, my brother went missing for 4 days and I moved out of my mother's house on October 28th and was hospitalized a few days later. When I was a child, I was stuck in a house fire in the fall.
Fall has a sort of drastic change in weather from Summer and it has always been a hard time for me. I feel a lot of inner turmoil when the leaves change color and the air is cold. I think my brain subconsciously remembers all the negative events that have happened in October. Sometimes the memories pass through my subconscious and I remember them,
Sometimes I wish that I did not remember everything that happens in my psychotic and paranoid states but I do. I not only have flashbacks of childhood abuse, but I also have them from other negative and stressful memories throughout my life. I even remember most of my childhood dreams and nightmares. I wish I did not have this extraordinary memory of negative memories but I do. I guess it could be considered part of the fact that my IQ is in the 99th percentile.
I have the power inside to stop this cycle of symptoms in October. Sometimes it does not feel like I do. But I do. All of us hold a power within us to stop the negative.
Saturday, October 10, 2015
Walking for Wellness 2015
On October 10, 2015, I participated in a Walkathon to raise money for Bridgeway, an amazing organization that helps those with mental illness recover.
I was in awe at the walkathon, because I saw people of all ages, all parts of the journey to recovery. Mental illness is seen across our country and throughout the world.
Most of you know by now that I struggle with schizoaffective disorder and PTSD. I'm open about my mental illnesses because I want to raise awareness to the tremendous difficulties that people with mental illnesses live with. I was VP for the Syracuse University NAMI chapter when I was in college. I spoke in a few classes about my life journey living with the illnesses. Mental illness did not stop me from receiving my Masters in Biomedical Engineerin despite having serious symptoms during my graduate school career.
It takes a ton of courage to live with a chronic illness, let alone one that most people push to the side due to stigmatization.
I want to say that during the whole walk, I was not ashamed of my illnesses. I am not ashamed of it to begin with, as it is something that God has brought into my life. Not really something I'd ask for but going through the healing process is absolutely beautiful. Some days are more arduous than others, but most days are wonderful. Even though I live with symptoms every single day, I wake up because this journey called life is interesting and worth fighting through.
I am proud to live with mental illness because it has made me stronger than I would have been without it. It has made my life worth living since it gives me something to work on and become healthy. I am one who enjoys challenges, as most of you know I am training for my first Half Marathon.
The energy at the walkathon was amazing. People helping people. People cheering for each other. People financially supporting the program.
That kind of support, love and encouragement is why I love the program.
As I write this, I am teary-eyed thinking about the walkathon.
Beautiful. Healing. Powerful. Inspirational. Magical. Thank you Bridgeway.
I was in awe at the walkathon, because I saw people of all ages, all parts of the journey to recovery. Mental illness is seen across our country and throughout the world.
Most of you know by now that I struggle with schizoaffective disorder and PTSD. I'm open about my mental illnesses because I want to raise awareness to the tremendous difficulties that people with mental illnesses live with. I was VP for the Syracuse University NAMI chapter when I was in college. I spoke in a few classes about my life journey living with the illnesses. Mental illness did not stop me from receiving my Masters in Biomedical Engineerin despite having serious symptoms during my graduate school career.
It takes a ton of courage to live with a chronic illness, let alone one that most people push to the side due to stigmatization.
I want to say that during the whole walk, I was not ashamed of my illnesses. I am not ashamed of it to begin with, as it is something that God has brought into my life. Not really something I'd ask for but going through the healing process is absolutely beautiful. Some days are more arduous than others, but most days are wonderful. Even though I live with symptoms every single day, I wake up because this journey called life is interesting and worth fighting through.
I am proud to live with mental illness because it has made me stronger than I would have been without it. It has made my life worth living since it gives me something to work on and become healthy. I am one who enjoys challenges, as most of you know I am training for my first Half Marathon.
The energy at the walkathon was amazing. People helping people. People cheering for each other. People financially supporting the program.
That kind of support, love and encouragement is why I love the program.
As I write this, I am teary-eyed thinking about the walkathon.
Beautiful. Healing. Powerful. Inspirational. Magical. Thank you Bridgeway.
Thursday, October 1, 2015
Just Keep Swimming
I have not written in a little bit but I feel like I have something important to share.
For the past two days, I have endured terrifying paranoid episodes and more flashbacks than I usually have. I am just happy that I got through each day at this point. Challenges in life bring out our greatest and most beautiful strengths, no matter how deep and how scary those challenges are.
For those who do not know me that well, I deal with many symptoms, including paranoia, psychosis, hallucinations, flashbacks, nightmares, mania and depression. To put it simply, my life can become interesting quickly.
I do not really know what has caused the recent episodes. However, I have had some stressful events come up this week.
When I had the episodes, I thought everyone around me was a spy for the FBI. Just like that, my world was terrifying and very difficult to deal with. But I took a medication and used skills to get out of the paranoia and I slowly calmed down.
I believe there are a bunch of things at play when I am paranoid. All through my life, I've had people who I was supposed to trust hurt me deeply, so why would I trust semi-new people in my life? Do they believe me when I tell them everything I've been through? Will they hurt me like many people have done to me before? Are there ulterior motives? How do I know that they have my best interests when I've been abused for the first 25 years of my life?
Either way, I am going to wake up tomorrow to face another day, because I gather my strength from God above. If it were not for His unconditional love, I would not be as strong as I am. We can trust in Him even on the darkest days.
For the past two days, I have endured terrifying paranoid episodes and more flashbacks than I usually have. I am just happy that I got through each day at this point. Challenges in life bring out our greatest and most beautiful strengths, no matter how deep and how scary those challenges are.
For those who do not know me that well, I deal with many symptoms, including paranoia, psychosis, hallucinations, flashbacks, nightmares, mania and depression. To put it simply, my life can become interesting quickly.
I do not really know what has caused the recent episodes. However, I have had some stressful events come up this week.
When I had the episodes, I thought everyone around me was a spy for the FBI. Just like that, my world was terrifying and very difficult to deal with. But I took a medication and used skills to get out of the paranoia and I slowly calmed down.
I believe there are a bunch of things at play when I am paranoid. All through my life, I've had people who I was supposed to trust hurt me deeply, so why would I trust semi-new people in my life? Do they believe me when I tell them everything I've been through? Will they hurt me like many people have done to me before? Are there ulterior motives? How do I know that they have my best interests when I've been abused for the first 25 years of my life?
Either way, I am going to wake up tomorrow to face another day, because I gather my strength from God above. If it were not for His unconditional love, I would not be as strong as I am. We can trust in Him even on the darkest days.
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